You don’t know me…

I know in one of my recent posts I talked about being a nice guy and never getting the woman. I am shy, I have always been and will always be. It’s just who I am and I’ve tried to change it, but nothing I do can stop me from being who I am. One of the hardest things, and everyone seems to try it, is to change the way a person behaves. Everyone knows they can’t do it, but they want to try countless times. I’ve learned from first hand experience that it’s not possible, and now I know I just won’t bother with it in the future, you just have to accept people for who they are. But people can change, but you can’t force it upon them. It has to be a free thinking moment where they realize who they are and then they will change.

Why am I talking about this? I don’t know really. It’s late and I’m tired. There are two points I’m trying to make, you don’t really know anyone. And this can be interchanged with relationships and life. The first is, you can’t change people, and the second is that I will always be the friend.

Yes, you know, the friend to every girl that enters their life. Never asking for more, but when it is done, they are put into the friends ladder (See; Ladder Theory). In fact, I get lied to quite a bit when it comes to the friends ladder. I’m given everything under the sun as an excuse, but never the truth, even when I ask for it. So what’s the truth I’m honestly looking for? Well, I definitely don’t want the run about friends excuse, and what I do want, is something you never get. I want to hear that the other person is not attracted to me (physically), because that is the honest to allah truth. Women are, for the most part, lying when they give you any other excuse. Why do I want to hear this? In all my years of living, and trying to play this bullshit game called dating, I’ve never been told this and I know it’s the real reason. Women are shallow beings for the most part, I’d go out on a limb and say a good 90-95% of them are. They are attracted someone who looks good, but I mean who isn’t? In all honesty, looks fall below one thing, personality. Someone has got to click with me first and foremost, without that, there’s not much else going for the person. Someone could be super attractive to everyone, but if they don’t have the personality, they’re worthless to me. I always wonder why I bother searching and searching, because I can’t ever seem to find someone worthwhile.